What is it to be a man?

Very recently I have seen some very good and bad examples of what it is to be a man. A man at least in my humble opinion of what makes a man, a "man". And I don't mean just having testosterone and a penis, although that usually is a big help.
The two examples I recently saw were people I know, fairly well. One from an association over the last few years as a friend, a father, and fellow Scout leader. The other one is from an association over the last few years as a friend, a father, and fellow Scout Leader. Sounds like the same type of guy, right? Couldn't be further from the truth.

PERSON #1:

The first person is someone that I have known for many years now and he embodies everything that I believes makes a good man. He is a man of strong faith and conviction. He is someone that will, if possible, help his neighbors, friends, and even strangers at the drop of a hat. During a particularly difficult time for my family and I, this person was with us to support and help us on an almost constant basis, even after he had been gone from his family for a long period of time. He is very willing to give his time and money if others need it. I know him to be a person of great mirth, of which he loves to express, but also of deep emotion, which he tries to let not show through. He is a very committed, loving family man. He pretty much spoils his family. He is a firm family leader, but also a pushover when it comes to somethings involving his children. He works hard to earn a living, even if he does not like his job at times. He is also a very active member of his community. He is more than willing to sacrifice for his family, his friends, and his community. He does not think twice about taking responsibility for his actions. His actions are made so that the best possible outcome is the only result.

(I would say he is a product of his environment. I know as to what type of men he was exposed to as a child. Most of the men he knew were primarily old Germans, primarily German Lutherans to be specific, who had a very decidedly rock solid idea of what it was to be an man. My father is one, so I think I know pretty well what I am talking about.)

PERSON # 2:

Now, however, I have seen the other side of the coin. I recently had the misfortune to be involved with a person, who, I will say, was a friend of mine, and although tarnished, probably still is. For reasons of anonimoty, I will only speak in generalities, this person committed a crime where property belonging to others was taken for himself and for his benefit only. Prior to finding this out, I thought that this person was a pretty trusted, honest and honorable person. It was not the actual crime of taking property that makes this person less of a man to me, but the extent he went to, to divert attention from himself and his actions, and the lack of responsibility he would take for his actions. I supposed that it is natural to try and hid one's guilt when accused of a crime, but rather than try and prove his innocence, he told stories, claimed outrageous possibilites, but worst of all, he was willing to sacrifice his honor, his work, and finally his family in order to make himself out to be the victim.

I have had to be closely involved in the persecution of this person, and in the end, hopefully the salvation of this person and his family. In the beginning, this man was willing to point the finger of blame to his son. A son who has more honor and integrity in his little finger than this person had in his whole body. He was more willing to try and hide his guilt than come clean, to the extent that he was willing to sacrifice his job and therefore the monetary support of his family. He was even willing to try and use someone elses good name to cover his own! Throughout this entire time, he never really accepted his role in the crime, even though there was no one else involved. As restitutution, he was to accomplish a number of things to make things right. He had a perfect chance to resolve the problem and rebuild his integrity and the damage done to his family. But he did not make the effort needed to succeed at this and instead came dangerously close to losing everything. His poor wife had resigned herself to seeing the destruction of her family all due to his lack of concern for his actions and a real lack of responsibility. Again he was willing to destroy everything that should have been important to a real man. He was not willing to stand up and sacrifice for his family. There was no one left to defend and save his family.

I cannot say more about what happened other than, hopefully, with actions undertaken by myself and others(including Person #1), Person #2 will be forced to take responsibility for his actions and thereby saving saving his family. Maybe he will learn from this what it is to be more of a man. I certainly hope so. I know I have learned from his actions as to what it is to be a "man" as much as I have learned from Person #1.

Later...