A list for parents...

I am skimming a book that a friend loaned me, called, "Shut up, Stop Whining, and Get a Life." by Larry Winget. Winget is a motivational speaker and for the most part is a pretty practical and reasonable person and most of what he says in the book is pretty straight forward and most of us would call it common sense advise, but most of us would rather whine about our problems, rather than do something about them. One of the best chapters is on Marriage and Relationships. It really is actually pretty good and I advise reading it. But in another chapter, called "Kids are a Pain in the Butt." he has a list of advise for raising good kids. It too is common sense, but sometimes we need to be reminded of them. I am going to put them in the blog to help those who read this and are parents, to help you remember some of the stuff that we sometimes forget of think that they already know, or worse, think that it is someone else's job to teach them.

Short list for raising good kids:

• If you have little bitty kids, sit on the floor a lot. Communicate at their level.
• Teach them about money. How to earn it, save it, invest it, spend it, and give it away.
• Listen to them.
• Ask more, tell less.
• Hug more, nag less.
• Show your kids affection even after they think they are too big for it.
• Teach them the really important things: Kindness, charity, love, forgiveness, compassion, respect, honest, responsibility, and how to have fun.
• Never lie to them. Never tolerate any lie from them.
• Encourage your children to develop their own uniqueness. Do not try to mold their personalities. Let them be who they are and let them become what they want to become, not what you want them to be.
• Do not make a jackass out of yourself at their sporting events.
• Do not protect them too much. Let them make their own mistakes and suffer the consequences. The lesson is in the consequences.
• They need love more than stuff.

That's it. Pretty sensible stuff and something I think every parent should take to heart. Especially the 3rd, 4th, 5th and last one. No one is a perfect parent, even if we think we are. If we try to be, then we are not being good parents. Spoiling your kids, letting them get off easy, or giving them too much freedom is not being a good parent. If your kids get pissed at you because of a decision that you have made, then most likely, you have made the right decision, and hopefully in time, they will understand.

Okay... off my soapbox.

Pick up the book I mentioned and got this from. Not a bad read. Certainly is easy to read. You just might find something useful!

later!